"The longest journey we take as human beings is th "The longest journey we take as human beings is the eighteen inches from our head to our heart." - Unknown
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If we look around its so easy to see the disconnection - from nature, from each other, from ourselves.
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We live in a society that is increasingly focused on "me, me, me," yet, when we take the journey from our head to our heart, the irony is, our heart is so often saying "you, you, you - how can I serve you?"  Meaning, how can I serve those around me?
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I had an incredible conversation with Dr. Keith Campbell on a book he wrote called "The New Science of Narcissism."  This man literally started the national conversation around narcissism years ago, and in our podcast interview (Ep. 64), we chat:
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+ The traits of narcissistic personality disorder
+ The ramifications of flippantly calling someone a narcissist
+ How social media can be dangerous when it comes to culture- wide narcissistic tendencies
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The beauty here is: we can turn this around.  We can actively take care of ourselves and still serve others.  We can choose to both love ourselves AND love the people around us to our fullest capacity.
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<3 What's your favorite way to show someone you love them?  
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I have several ways that I love, but my favorite recently has been with a thoughtful gift.  - To show and say "I see you and I love you and I appreciate you."
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I left L.A. yesterday. I was there for an import I left L.A. yesterday. 

I was there for an important meeting and I want to unravel several of the really cool things I’m discovering, and please, ask me your questions. We are on the self-discovery journey together. 

+ as of tomorrow, I will have meditated 100 days straight. It’s no accident that some of the biggest shifts in my life have happened in the last 100 days.

+ we do not have to heal and grow alone. I used to think it was a solo journey, it’s not. It’s a solo decision to walk in the direction of healing and growth but teachers present themselves and if we are wise, we accept their help.

+ growth doesn’t have to be incremental. We can take quantum leaps and achieve well beyond the obvious. This requires a dramatic mindset shift, but these quantum leaps are available to all of us. 

This healing, this growth - it’s the foundation of emotional freedom which translates into creating the life one dreams of. I’m watching it unfold before my eyes and simultaneously thinking “this is the truth I have been seeking. It’s been here all along.”

Easter is the day in which Jesus rose 🌹- we are invited to do the same. 

You can book a Sacred Space one-on-one call with me via the link in my bio. You don’t have to wait or walk alone. 

With so much love, 
Jaclyn
I appreciate a curated feed and photo, but this is I appreciate a curated feed and photo, but this is the real me.  It's raw.  It's sunset after a work day.  I'm taking a hike and releasing the to-list hangover that sometimes seeps into my evening hours.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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Moments like these are my transition moments.  They are the moments that help me center - that bring be back to my aliveness.  I've been thinking about what makes me feel alive a lot lately and I've realized what it is: serving others.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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And with that, I've decided, after looking at the impact my podcast, Self Discovery, is making to offer one-on-one coaching.  I don't have a secret methodology.  I don't have a 10 step program.  But what I do have is a lot of life experience.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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My offerings are rooted in self-worth, because in my experience, every "obstacle" I have faced - in entrepreneurship, in relationships, in my health, in my bank account - has been clearly tied to feelings of self doubt, low self esteem, unworthiness, fear, and an attitude of "WTF am I doing with my life?!?!?!"⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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If you are struggling, if you are ready to welcome in a new era, and if you are willing to let go of the bs self-limiting beliefs holding you back, then shoot me a text and let's get this conversation started: 480-531-6858.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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Yeah, that's really my number, and yeah, I'm really on the other end of the line.  You will have to agree to opt-in, but I promise I will be the person you are speaking to.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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This world needs you in your you-est form - that's one of the many gorgeous reasons you are here.  And if you need help stepping into that kind of life-altering, soul singing, powerful self-worth, I am one text message away.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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With So Much Love,⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
Jaclyn
I took my dogs for a hike yesterday, and Pippin, m I took my dogs for a hike yesterday, and Pippin, my 4.5 pound Yorkie is a pill on long walks.  She thinks she is the leader of the pack.  She “muscles” her way around and keeps her nose to the ground like a hound on a scent.  The problem is, her intensity, at times, makes her completely unaware of where she is heading.  And yesterday, my dog Tumnus, (who is about 4x the size of Pip) somehow got a few feet ahead of her and was lifting his leg and peeing on a big rock.  This is not unusual, but what was unusual was that Pippin in all her intensity did not see Tumnus peeing and walked STRAIGHT THROUGH the stream.  Across her whole left side was a line of fresh Tumnus proof of what had just happened.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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This reminded me of how we are as humans.  We get so intense, so focused, that we forget to look up and around.  This looking up and around allows us to take stock of our lives.  I mentioned that I hired a healer.  She is an intuitive acupuncturist that can read energy.  She said to me, “Jaclyn, you must stop doing, doing, doing, and practice just being.”⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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Just being.  I have been practicing it this past week and it has allowed me to take an aerial view of my life.  I realize that so many of the things that I worry about have very little importance. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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Being alive is important, and if we are caught up in the intensity of living, it’s really hard to feel alive.  In a world where shootings (Atlanta, Boulder) are common place, this concept of being is even more important.  Life is PRECIOUS.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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This is my open prayer for the families of the victims lost in these shootings.  Join me if you feel led… I pray that these families feel enveloped by love and a deep knowing that they will one day be reunited with their precious loved ones.  And that in this time of grief, they would allow themselves the space to just be.  And like Johnnyswim sings “if it’s fragile and it shatters, let it matter, let it matter.”
The last two weeks have been transformative. Yes, The last two weeks have been transformative.  Yes, this is a @parkerclayintl post because I love their bags SO much, but this is also a post about the power of taking a breath.
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The last two weeks I haven't posted much.  Not because I was actively taking a break, but because I was totally and completely immersed in my life.
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I hired a healer (so much more on this), I hired a coach (so much more on this), my family came and visited from the midwest.
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And I've been falling in love with my life all over again.
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I read recently that if you want to ignite change in your life, then you have to run as fast as you can into the fire (before you can talk yourself out of it), because there is nothing like fear to bring your bs limiting beliefs to the surface.
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This is so true.  This is so, so true.
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So cheers to letting go of what holds us back, cheers to kick a$$ bags from @parkerclayintl that serve such an amazing purpose, and cheers to Monday even if it feels like Monday!
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The importance of following your intuition (tips f The importance of following your intuition (tips for tuning in below):

Have you ever had a feeling so strong that your body reacts physically?  Or an inkling about someone before you meet them?  Or a gentle nudge that you should show up somewhere for some unknown reason?

This is intuition.  It is my belief that it’s actually universal intelligence channeling through you sending you a message.

In our fast paced, over stimulating culture though, it can be really hard to tune out the noise and tune in to this inner voice - this gut feeling.

For me, that’s when I turn to:
💙yoga
💙meditation
💙journaling
💙long walks
💙carving out moments of complete silence with no distraction (I have to put the phone away)
💙allowing energy to move through me instead of stopping it and trying to figure out what it is and how it works

Tuning in and listening to your intuition is vital, but you know what requires even more courage?  Acting on it.  Doing what it is nudging you to do.

Examples of what intuition has clearly led me to:
💯winning an international singing competition
💯meeting my now husband
💯moving to the West
💯finding the podcast guest on today’s episode

And you know what @okoliving ’s founder’s intuition led her to?  Starting this unlikely but so timely and beautifully intentional company.  Lindsay let her intuition lead the way through doubt, obstacles, and naysayers into a space where she is leading the way in ethical, eco-friendly, and safe yoga products.

Listen to our inspired conversation (episode 61) now streaming everywhere.

👉🏼👉🏽👉🏿And then leave us a comment! Did you know that many traditional sticky yoga mats emit toxic gases? I had NO IDEA!  And what did you learn from this episode with Lindsay?
We have to own our distractions. This is VITAL if We have to own our distractions.  This is VITAL if we want to own our day. (Actions steps below)⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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Do we open Instagram right after we wake up?  Do we flip on the TV as soon as we get home?  Do we get caught up in drama at the office?  Do we get sucked into family matters that have nothing to do with us?  Do we allow ourselves to be victims of clickbait when have an open hour to work on our dreams?⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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According to Stoic philosophy, owning what we are giving our mental energy to is a vital component of having autonomy over our lives.  Or in other, more personalized, words: are you living your life or is your life living you?⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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⛵️ Easy action steps for plugging the distraction holes:⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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Here's the thing, and I'm gearing up to go DEEP on this subject: chronically allowing distraction into our lives is a self worth issue.  We are saying to the Almighty: My time is not valuable.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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💎 truth check: YOUR TIME IS VALUABLE BECAUSE YOU ARE VALUABLE.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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We just have to start acting like it.  A great question to ask ourselves during the day is: would a person who values themselves spend time doing this?  If not, act accordingly.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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🦋 What's one distraction, that if you decreased or eliminated it, would give you back super valuable time to work toward your dreams and desires?  Let's encourage each other in the comments below.  Chances are, if you are experiencing that distraction, someone else is too!
Do you take risks? And what really are risks? Is Do you take risks?

And what really are risks?  Is it jumping out of a plane?  Moving across the country?  Getting married?  Making that phone call?  DM-ing that person you admire to share the kind of value you or your product could offer them?  Making what feels like a vulnerable post on Instagram?

I know this much, my beautiful friends: progress, momentum, forward movement, success - they ALL require risk.

And @missamandasellers is sharing with us some of the risks she’s taken.  And boy oh boy have some of them paid off!  And some of them, she admits, haven’t.  However, she is still standing and growing and thriving and inspiring the rest of us to act on our own potential.

Risks, rejection, self worth, and self healing with Miss Amanda Sellers - episode 60 is up NOW!  Links in stories and in BIO.

✌🏼✌🏽✌🏿✌🏾What’s one risk you’ve taken that’s really paid off?  Let’s encourage one another!

p.s. neck scarf is from @parkerclayintl and has a built in and removable face mask.  I’ll link in my stories and code: PC-JACLYN20 will give you 20% off. :)
How do you know if you're stressed? Is this a dum How do you know if you're stressed?  Is this a dumb question?  I'm spilling some tea right here.  This is NOT a dumb question.  Recently, I've been SUPER focused on taking back the reigns of my life.  The beauty of my Hashimoto's diagnosis last August is that it's forced me to make some big changes because my health LITERALLY depends on it.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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I started with getting on the right medication dosage, then focused on dietary changes, and then stress management.  I probably should've STARTED with stress management.  Here's why:⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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I was so stressed all the time that I didn't know what not being stressed felt like.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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💙 put your phone away (I do no phone after 7PM, and I also keep my phone in my purse for the majority of the work day). The phone is constant stimulation and constant cortisol spikes for me.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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💙 take f-ing care of yourself.  Sleep.  Rest.  Time for books and just f-ing thinking.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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For years, I had this list flipped upside down.  I was my priority only after I had made everyone else my priority.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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🦋Success/progress/healing requires boundaries and stress management. Your thoughts?🦋
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Self Help, Wellness · February 13, 2019

“You are stronger than you believe.”

I watched Wonder Woman (again) last week. I was having a rough day and my eyes were tired from staring at my computer screen. It was one of those afternoons where from the outside looking in, it would have appeared as though I was being productive, but truthfully, I felt like I was just clicking between tabs and incessantly checking my email.

When that happens, I take it as a clue I’m in dire need of a re-set. I took a deep breath and asked myself what I needed… After a few moments, I felt a little nudge telling me to watch Wonder Woman. There was a message in it that I needed to hear.

The older I get, the more I listen to and take action after these nudges. Its intuition bubbling up to show us there is a better way than strong arming through. We know we are human, yet so often, we treat ourselves as robots. We fool ourselves into believing we can power through anything and not deal with the consequences that ensue from this unsustainable behavior. I’m all for working hard, but I’m also alllll for listening to my intuition when it tells me I need a break.

So, I watched Wonder Woman and this scene, one I completely forgot about, hit me straight between the eyes. (It’s in the first 35 seconds).

“You keep doubting yourself, Diana!” – Antiope

“No, I don’t!” – Diana

“Yes, you do.” – Antiope

“No, I don’t!” – Diana

“You are stronger than you believe. You have greater powers than you know.” – Antiope


This first time I saw this movie, I didn’t realize the significance of this scene. Diana is training physically and she is becoming stronger and stronger, but her mind still hasn’t developed fully. Our thoughts, what we really believe about ourselves, directly affects our ability to fight for our dreams.

Let me say that again in another way… what you think you are capable of, you are.

Bringing it back to this scene, Diana is becoming a very competent warrior, but what her aunt is trying to teach her is that there is also a battlefield in her mind. She is going to have to train in that arena just as hard, if not harder, than she does in the physical realm. And while we may not be Amazons or demi gods, we all fight on the battlefield of the mind periodically.

Just recently, I fought a battle of my own. It was Wednesday of last week and I was invited to be a part of a song writing circle at an intimate venue in Athens, GA. There were 5 other female songwriters besides myself on stage and between each song the host would ask us a series of questions related to what we played. Some of these women have toured internationally and have bands and pressed records and merch tables and big reputations, and for a moment I wondered what am I doing here? My songs can’t possibly be good enough. But I’ve heard this tape before. Many times. I recognized it like an acquaintance from high school you wish you could avoid. But you can’t avoid doubt. Everyone, if they’re honest, experiences it from time to time – some experience it all the time. In this instance though, just like Diana, I had two choices: I could shrink and allow the doubt to threaten me like a sword at my neck, OR I could face it head on and fight back.

I fought back. One chord at a time, one verse at a time, one song at a time until the doubt faded peacefully into the back of my mind like a wolf retreating back into its natural habitat.

It’s so easy to doubt ourselves. Not only is self-doubt a human tendency, but we also live in an age where we are set up to constantly compare ourselves to others – driving home this idea that we aren’t good enough, or ready enough, or whatever enough. This negative energy storm sucks the life right out of us. It takes the wind out of our sails and keeps us in a place of complacency.

Let me ask you something: do you want to live a life of complacency? Or do you want fulfill what you came here to do?

What I’m learning personally, is that I have to fight for my desires. And fight hard. No one is going to hand them to me. No one is going to magically discover me and sign me to a multi-million dollar publishing deal. No one is going to pick up a sword and be my stand in for the battles I don’t feel prepared to fight. There is no “tapping out” in life. The only way forward is to face my fear, and if I’m not willing to do that, then I will forever be trapped in the land of “What if.”

I say “fu#k that.” I’m picking up the sword. I’m choosing to face my own fears. I may not be slaying physical dragons, but I’m going to prepare to annihilate the mental ones. The life I’m working for is worth fighting for and I’m ready to wage war against anything that gets in my way.

SPOILER ALERT: In the climax of the movie, Wonder Woman thought the only way she could kill Aries (the god of war) was with a special sword called “the god killer,” but guess what? She is the god killer. She is her greatest weapon. She just had to believe it.

You don’t need money. You don’t need accolades. You don’t need a write up in a fancy publication. You don’t need 20k followers on social media. I’ll tell you exactly what you need: YOU.

You are your greatest weapon and you can continue to sling that sword at yourself, or you can point it forward and battle on. One step at a time. One thought at a time. One day at a time. Your life is worth fighting for. Your dreams are worth fighting for. YOU are worth fighting for.

I’m taking this lesson to heart, as well. Doubt is insidious and no one that I have ever met is immune to it. It shows up along with its other mental dragon friends whenever it wants to – whispering lies and breathing ideas that threaten to keep us down, but you have a choice. You can choose whether or not you listen. I’m going to steal Antiope’s words here:

“You are stronger than you believe. You have greater powers than you know.”

Antiope in “Wonder Woman”

These mental dragons may look a little different for all of us, but they are dragons all the same. Learn their behaviors. Learn where they hang out. Learn their patterns of attack and make a battle plan. No one will fight your battles for you. No one will fight my battles for me. But we are stronger than we think – we have powers greater than we know. And the more we train, the more adept we will be on the battlefields we find ourselves in.

So train, show up, fight, battle on. Don’t let a little doubt pin you down. Repeat after me: You are stronger than you know.

YOU are the sword. Wield accordingly.

LIGHT, LOVE, & PEACE,

J A C L Y N S T E E L E

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Comments

  1. ian says

    February 13, 2019 at 3:38 pm

    I loved your performance at Foundry, the high note you sing in meet you on the moon was eargasmic 🙂

    Reply
    • jsteele says

      February 13, 2019 at 4:54 pm

      Ian, THANK YOU! And thank you for being there. That song will be out soon! Can’t wait to share it with the world. Send me more of your stuff. 🙂

      Reply
  2. Jean says

    March 13, 2019 at 12:52 pm

    It’s so ironic that when we feel this way, unprepared for what we face, so many others are looking at us in awe of our potential and strength. I know this because this is how I look at you, Jaclyn. Our harshest critics are oftentimes ourselves, and we have to tamp that down when it creeps into our lives. Insecurities are part of being aware of one’s abilities, but not to paralyze us in our tracks, it is intended to let us know a great opportunity is before us, and we can reach the next level by embracing it. We have the necessary tools, and it is only our own self-doubt that holds us back. And if our efforts go unrewarded after “putting it all out there”, have we failed? We have not. We have just put another arrow in our quiver for the next time.

    Love you,
    Jaclyn

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    • jsteele says

      March 13, 2019 at 4:36 pm

      Jean, I cannot tell you how much your words mean to me. Thank you. Our harshest critics are ourselves. That is so true. I like the idea of our insecurities as being a part of having awareness about our abilities… almost like they go hand in hand versus insecurity being a negative thing. Maybe they are there to guide us… to play the devil’s advocate so we know what we are stepping into. I like that perspective a lot more. You are so wise and I’m so grateful you are in my life. Thank you for your words. <3

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"The longest journey we take as human beings is th "The longest journey we take as human beings is the eighteen inches from our head to our heart." - Unknown
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If we look around its so easy to see the disconnection - from nature, from each other, from ourselves.
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We live in a society that is increasingly focused on "me, me, me," yet, when we take the journey from our head to our heart, the irony is, our heart is so often saying "you, you, you - how can I serve you?"  Meaning, how can I serve those around me?
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I had an incredible conversation with Dr. Keith Campbell on a book he wrote called "The New Science of Narcissism."  This man literally started the national conversation around narcissism years ago, and in our podcast interview (Ep. 64), we chat:
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+ The traits of narcissistic personality disorder
+ The ramifications of flippantly calling someone a narcissist
+ How social media can be dangerous when it comes to culture- wide narcissistic tendencies
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The beauty here is: we can turn this around.  We can actively take care of ourselves and still serve others.  We can choose to both love ourselves AND love the people around us to our fullest capacity.
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<3 What's your favorite way to show someone you love them?  
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I have several ways that I love, but my favorite recently has been with a thoughtful gift.  - To show and say "I see you and I love you and I appreciate you."
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(Bandana/mask is the Ayzosh and bag is the Miramar - both from @parkerclayintl.  Code: PC-JACLYN20 will get you 20% off or you can swipe the link in my stories.  These are the most beautiful bags for the most beautiful cause).
I left L.A. yesterday. I was there for an import I left L.A. yesterday. 

I was there for an important meeting and I want to unravel several of the really cool things I’m discovering, and please, ask me your questions. We are on the self-discovery journey together. 

+ as of tomorrow, I will have meditated 100 days straight. It’s no accident that some of the biggest shifts in my life have happened in the last 100 days.

+ we do not have to heal and grow alone. I used to think it was a solo journey, it’s not. It’s a solo decision to walk in the direction of healing and growth but teachers present themselves and if we are wise, we accept their help.

+ growth doesn’t have to be incremental. We can take quantum leaps and achieve well beyond the obvious. This requires a dramatic mindset shift, but these quantum leaps are available to all of us. 

This healing, this growth - it’s the foundation of emotional freedom which translates into creating the life one dreams of. I’m watching it unfold before my eyes and simultaneously thinking “this is the truth I have been seeking. It’s been here all along.”

Easter is the day in which Jesus rose 🌹- we are invited to do the same. 

You can book a Sacred Space one-on-one call with me via the link in my bio. You don’t have to wait or walk alone. 

With so much love, 
Jaclyn
I appreciate a curated feed and photo, but this is I appreciate a curated feed and photo, but this is the real me.  It's raw.  It's sunset after a work day.  I'm taking a hike and releasing the to-list hangover that sometimes seeps into my evening hours.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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Moments like these are my transition moments.  They are the moments that help me center - that bring be back to my aliveness.  I've been thinking about what makes me feel alive a lot lately and I've realized what it is: serving others.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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And with that, I've decided, after looking at the impact my podcast, Self Discovery, is making to offer one-on-one coaching.  I don't have a secret methodology.  I don't have a 10 step program.  But what I do have is a lot of life experience.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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My offerings are rooted in self-worth, because in my experience, every "obstacle" I have faced - in entrepreneurship, in relationships, in my health, in my bank account - has been clearly tied to feelings of self doubt, low self esteem, unworthiness, fear, and an attitude of "WTF am I doing with my life?!?!?!"⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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If you are struggling, if you are ready to welcome in a new era, and if you are willing to let go of the bs self-limiting beliefs holding you back, then shoot me a text and let's get this conversation started: 480-531-6858.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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Yeah, that's really my number, and yeah, I'm really on the other end of the line.  You will have to agree to opt-in, but I promise I will be the person you are speaking to.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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This world needs you in your you-est form - that's one of the many gorgeous reasons you are here.  And if you need help stepping into that kind of life-altering, soul singing, powerful self-worth, I am one text message away.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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With So Much Love,⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
Jaclyn
I took my dogs for a hike yesterday, and Pippin, m I took my dogs for a hike yesterday, and Pippin, my 4.5 pound Yorkie is a pill on long walks.  She thinks she is the leader of the pack.  She “muscles” her way around and keeps her nose to the ground like a hound on a scent.  The problem is, her intensity, at times, makes her completely unaware of where she is heading.  And yesterday, my dog Tumnus, (who is about 4x the size of Pip) somehow got a few feet ahead of her and was lifting his leg and peeing on a big rock.  This is not unusual, but what was unusual was that Pippin in all her intensity did not see Tumnus peeing and walked STRAIGHT THROUGH the stream.  Across her whole left side was a line of fresh Tumnus proof of what had just happened.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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This reminded me of how we are as humans.  We get so intense, so focused, that we forget to look up and around.  This looking up and around allows us to take stock of our lives.  I mentioned that I hired a healer.  She is an intuitive acupuncturist that can read energy.  She said to me, “Jaclyn, you must stop doing, doing, doing, and practice just being.”⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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Just being.  I have been practicing it this past week and it has allowed me to take an aerial view of my life.  I realize that so many of the things that I worry about have very little importance. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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Being alive is important, and if we are caught up in the intensity of living, it’s really hard to feel alive.  In a world where shootings (Atlanta, Boulder) are common place, this concept of being is even more important.  Life is PRECIOUS.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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This is my open prayer for the families of the victims lost in these shootings.  Join me if you feel led… I pray that these families feel enveloped by love and a deep knowing that they will one day be reunited with their precious loved ones.  And that in this time of grief, they would allow themselves the space to just be.  And like Johnnyswim sings “if it’s fragile and it shatters, let it matter, let it matter.”
The last two weeks have been transformative. Yes, The last two weeks have been transformative.  Yes, this is a @parkerclayintl post because I love their bags SO much, but this is also a post about the power of taking a breath.
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The last two weeks I haven't posted much.  Not because I was actively taking a break, but because I was totally and completely immersed in my life.
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I hired a healer (so much more on this), I hired a coach (so much more on this), my family came and visited from the midwest.
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And I've been falling in love with my life all over again.
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I read recently that if you want to ignite change in your life, then you have to run as fast as you can into the fire (before you can talk yourself out of it), because there is nothing like fear to bring your bs limiting beliefs to the surface.
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This is so true.  This is so, so true.
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So cheers to letting go of what holds us back, cheers to kick a$$ bags from @parkerclayintl that serve such an amazing purpose, and cheers to Monday even if it feels like Monday!
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The importance of following your intuition (tips f The importance of following your intuition (tips for tuning in below):

Have you ever had a feeling so strong that your body reacts physically?  Or an inkling about someone before you meet them?  Or a gentle nudge that you should show up somewhere for some unknown reason?

This is intuition.  It is my belief that it’s actually universal intelligence channeling through you sending you a message.

In our fast paced, over stimulating culture though, it can be really hard to tune out the noise and tune in to this inner voice - this gut feeling.

For me, that’s when I turn to:
💙yoga
💙meditation
💙journaling
💙long walks
💙carving out moments of complete silence with no distraction (I have to put the phone away)
💙allowing energy to move through me instead of stopping it and trying to figure out what it is and how it works

Tuning in and listening to your intuition is vital, but you know what requires even more courage?  Acting on it.  Doing what it is nudging you to do.

Examples of what intuition has clearly led me to:
💯winning an international singing competition
💯meeting my now husband
💯moving to the West
💯finding the podcast guest on today’s episode

And you know what @okoliving ’s founder’s intuition led her to?  Starting this unlikely but so timely and beautifully intentional company.  Lindsay let her intuition lead the way through doubt, obstacles, and naysayers into a space where she is leading the way in ethical, eco-friendly, and safe yoga products.

Listen to our inspired conversation (episode 61) now streaming everywhere.

👉🏼👉🏽👉🏿And then leave us a comment! Did you know that many traditional sticky yoga mats emit toxic gases? I had NO IDEA!  And what did you learn from this episode with Lindsay?
We have to own our distractions. This is VITAL if We have to own our distractions.  This is VITAL if we want to own our day. (Actions steps below)⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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Do we open Instagram right after we wake up?  Do we flip on the TV as soon as we get home?  Do we get caught up in drama at the office?  Do we get sucked into family matters that have nothing to do with us?  Do we allow ourselves to be victims of clickbait when have an open hour to work on our dreams?⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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According to Stoic philosophy, owning what we are giving our mental energy to is a vital component of having autonomy over our lives.  Or in other, more personalized, words: are you living your life or is your life living you?⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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⛵️ Easy action steps for plugging the distraction holes:⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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1. plan out "you" time - for self care, for working on your dreams, for accomplishing what you need to, etc. throughout the week (put it in your calendar as a non-negotiable)⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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Here's the thing, and I'm gearing up to go DEEP on this subject: chronically allowing distraction into our lives is a self worth issue.  We are saying to the Almighty: My time is not valuable.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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💎 truth check: YOUR TIME IS VALUABLE BECAUSE YOU ARE VALUABLE.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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We just have to start acting like it.  A great question to ask ourselves during the day is: would a person who values themselves spend time doing this?  If not, act accordingly.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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🦋 What's one distraction, that if you decreased or eliminated it, would give you back super valuable time to work toward your dreams and desires?  Let's encourage each other in the comments below.  Chances are, if you are experiencing that distraction, someone else is too!
Do you take risks? And what really are risks? Is Do you take risks?

And what really are risks?  Is it jumping out of a plane?  Moving across the country?  Getting married?  Making that phone call?  DM-ing that person you admire to share the kind of value you or your product could offer them?  Making what feels like a vulnerable post on Instagram?

I know this much, my beautiful friends: progress, momentum, forward movement, success - they ALL require risk.

And @missamandasellers is sharing with us some of the risks she’s taken.  And boy oh boy have some of them paid off!  And some of them, she admits, haven’t.  However, she is still standing and growing and thriving and inspiring the rest of us to act on our own potential.

Risks, rejection, self worth, and self healing with Miss Amanda Sellers - episode 60 is up NOW!  Links in stories and in BIO.

✌🏼✌🏽✌🏿✌🏾What’s one risk you’ve taken that’s really paid off?  Let’s encourage one another!

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How do you know if you're stressed? Is this a dum How do you know if you're stressed?  Is this a dumb question?  I'm spilling some tea right here.  This is NOT a dumb question.  Recently, I've been SUPER focused on taking back the reigns of my life.  The beauty of my Hashimoto's diagnosis last August is that it's forced me to make some big changes because my health LITERALLY depends on it.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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I started with getting on the right medication dosage, then focused on dietary changes, and then stress management.  I probably should've STARTED with stress management.  Here's why:⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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I was so stressed all the time that I didn't know what not being stressed felt like.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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So here's the tea and these things are KEY if you want to lower your stress/take your life back:⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
💙 put your phone away (I do no phone after 7PM, and I also keep my phone in my purse for the majority of the work day). The phone is constant stimulation and constant cortisol spikes for me.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
💙 prioritizing your dreams.  Creating space and taking action on what I want to accomplish FIRST rather then tending to everyone and their needs and THEN doing what I need to do.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
💙 take f-ing care of yourself.  Sleep.  Rest.  Time for books and just f-ing thinking.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
💙 boundaries... with literally everyone.  What do I need today to be healthy and move my dreams forward? ... if you don't fit into that, I love you, but I'm worthy of my focus and attention.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
💙 morning meditation⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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🦋Success/progress/healing requires boundaries and stress management. Your thoughts?🦋
Want a super quick tip for getting over the obstac Want a super quick tip for getting over the obstacles you face every day?

Be the super hero of your own life.

I got this idea from Andrée Werner, co-founder of Ryze Superfoods, Harvard AND Julliard grad, and… my latest podcast guest.  This brilliant woman and her business partner, Rashad, launched their signature mushroom superfood coffee (which you have heard me mention repeatedly because I love it) in the midst of a pandemic and they are KILLING IT.

As with all entrepreneurial adventures, this ish is hard, but Andrée and Rashad approach obstacles armed with the best question ever: what would a super hero do right now?

And the answer?  It’s ALWAYS “figure it out.”

And really, isn’t that what life is all about?  Being resourceful and resilient and responsible for our own destinies?

I love this lady and her story and this company that she helped create called @ryzesuperfoods.  This episode is an interesting listen if you’re into health and entrepreneurship.  AND if you want to try their INCREDIBLE superfood-packed mushroom coffee, visit the link in their bio and use code: JACLYN at checkout for 15% off your order.

Have you guys tried mushroom coffee yet?  I’m obsessed.  My husband is on it.  My mom is on it.  Several of my friends are on board.  I think it’s the wave of the less caffeinated, more calm future.

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